This is the advice of Asma' to her daughter upon the latter's marriage, as related by al-Ghazali:
"You have left a nest in which you grew up and proceeded to a bed which you know not and mate with whom you have not associated; be an earth for him, and he will be your sky; be a resting place for him, and he will be your pillar; be his bondmaid, and he will be your slave; do not make excessive demands, for he will then desert you; do not become too distant from him; should he become distant, stay away from him. Shield his nose, his hearing and his eye so he will smell nothing from you but that which is sweet, hear nothing but that which is good, and look at nothing but that which is beautiful."
